Ask Me His Name: Learning to live and laugh again after the loss of my baby

Product Information

Then I spoke to my mum, good old Carol, and Carol said: ‘Why don’t you go and meet with her, what do you have to lose? As a mummy myself it has made me look even closer to what I have and cuddle them that little bit tighter. So I’m telling the story, and telling people what happened, and hopefully letting it serve as an education for everyone. to us all, yet the author helped me understand and she helps to take away the stigma behind a loss of a child. She doesn't pretend to have all the answers or to offer you a roadmap out of grief, but to sit with you in it.

At times it was difficult to read through the tears, but this is one of the books I will remember for a long time. This is a very good book for both those who have lost a baby and for those who care about someone who has.It is written from the heart, and I’m sure will resonate with any parent who has experienced such a loss. A quick read of Elle’s bio, and a link to a JustGiving page, told me all about her son Teddy, who sadly passed away at just three days old. So giving women that confidence and pointing them in the right direction to talk to somebody who knows how they’re feeling, is incredibly important. We were all just shouting at the top of our voices into an echo chamber of women who already know how it feels.

In this honest, beautifully written and hopeful exploration of mothering, Elle explores how she navigated a parenthood that no one had prepared her for. Because I feel like we’re at a place in life if someone says to you ‘Oh I’ve been diagnosed with cancer’ there would have been a point in time where there would be a death sentence hanging over their head and we wouldn’t say anything. Not a book I would normally pick to read but I have followed Elle Wright on Instagram (Feathering the Empty Nest) and so I knew she had recently published a book about her story, so I thought I would give Ask Me His Name a read. The strange thing about our fear of talking about losing a baby is that though one in four women will lose a baby at some point, most pregnant women are more prepared for heartburn, swollen ankles, and morning sickness, but there’s nothing to prepare you for the chance of the worst happening. anything to allow them to speak proudly about their child because they are still parents and still proud of their children no matter how long they spent on this earth.

Just a few hours after giving birth, they woke to find a nurse holding a cold and unresponsive Teddy, who had stopped breathing during the night.

Although I’ve never been in this mother’s position, i truly believe the book had given people an insight into the affects losing a child has on someone. Yes, I cried reading this book – it’s impossible not to feel emotional when following a mother’s account of losing her child, but it’s also layered with Elle’s trademark humour. After having seen many reviews on social media about Ask Me His Name, I felt compelled to read Elle's story of love and loss of baby Teddy. So she’d followed me on Instagram, she’d read my other posts, and [she asked me] would I ever consider writing a book? I’ve followed Elle on Instagram for quite some time now, so was already aware of her story and the devestating loss of baby Teddy when I bought this book.Being able to shine a light in even the darkest of moments and be absolutely heart-rendering to read, has lots of positive moments and messages.

You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice. I have followed Elle for a while on Instagram and love her blog and her day to day post about general things.

Elle Wright had an admittedly easy pregnancy, and in May 2016 she and her husband welcomed their son, Teddy, into the world. I didn't know how much I would long for people to say my son Teddy's name, to not treat him like he didn't exist. This is such a humbling, and heartbreaking read, it is beautifully written and at times will leave you with a hard lump in your throat or sobbing.