Happy High Status: How to Be Effortlessly Confident

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As a reminder if you've got any questions, people you'd like to hear from, ideas for future episodes, you can always get in touch with us. This week was the Emotion Women’s Day in Hamburg, Germany, where I was speaking about the German edition of How to Own the Room . The thing to understand is why we are not doing those things… It’s not so much: “What should I be doing?

It lends strength and energy to your interactions, big and small, and is a way of projecting status, minimising self-doubt and moving effortlessly through life. And so you concentrate on, how do I make this less about me, how do I be less self-conscious, how do I make this useful, how do I make this palatable for other people, how do I make them come with me, so that it's not just about you getting up there, surviving and getting off again, it's really about creating a moment of connection. But there were (and still are) constant disagreements over lockdowns, masks and government responses. But it’s all the more important that you project confidence in your writing, and signal that you’ve got something interesting to say.In this second of a series of Happy High Status takeover episodes, Viv talks to Olympic athlete and world champion javelin thrower Fatima Whitbread, star of I’m a Celebrity and Celebrity SAS: Who Dares Win and fundraiser for Action for Children. What if a two-star review actually connects you with somebody who then becomes a massive fan of your work?

She is the host of the podcast How Own the Room, with over 2 million downloads and guests including Hillary and Chelsea Clinton, Margaret Atwood, Professor Mary Beard, Nigella Lawson and very occasionally a man like Brian Cox (Succession's Logan Roy).And sometimes it would be things like, don't beat yourself up, or be free, or get it wrong tonight, or be different to the last person. A big trait of Happy High Status is about supporting and empowering those who ask for help, whilst also taking advice and learning from others. This book will dig deep into what Happy High Status looks like and how you can get a piece of it yourself. Three years down the line, I can see actually, "No, that show pretty much tanked and I was kind of being a bit lazy in that show". So, you know, what if you don't need your whole salary this month and you keep 10% of it back for this other project you want to work on?

It's also about really judging the level of self-criticism that you're bringing to that interaction.But actually to your description, I think I walked away because also I was in a part of my life where I'd just had a baby, I was coming back from maternity leave, I'd got a really long commute, and I was in that exact situation. And in stand-up, this would be the moment maybe where somebody heckles you, or where you have a prolonged tumbleweed silence, which is actually worse than a heckle. As a performance coach, she works with women and senior teams in business and media, helping them to redefine leadership and authority - and generally worry less about how they come across so they can actually just do their work. Now, that feeling of “not safe” – revived during the pandemic because it was essentially true – has resurfaced and may not go away in the same sense ever again. Viv talks to the bestselling author of The Warmth of Other Suns, Isabel Wilkerson, about cultivating gentle trust in ourselves.