Happy High Status: How to Be Effortlessly Confident

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I think most people understand and agree with this. Dr Ian Williams is a GP and the author of the graphic novel series The Bad Doctor. He argues that, yes, of course, we ought to find a way to stop Covid fallout from biting us on the arse, to process it and maintain our sense of ourselves, but there is one problem: “There is an absence of consensus about what the experience was and what it meant. That, in itself, is almost a reason to argue to just forget about it. There’s certainly a lot of anger and suspicion, and that has really divided people.

This is part of making a great first impression. Don’t mess this up. It’s simple but not always easy. 20. Don’t go out of your way to befriend high status people Groskop goes on to argue that “happy high status” isn’t actually conferred by society. It’s an inner attitude that anyone can achieve, regardless of social hierarchy. And when it’s genuine, it’ll make your public speech resonate like nothing else — because it transmits that you’re at ease, happy where you’re at, and not trying to hide anything. But – and this is key – it’s impossible to fake happy high status. This compassionate, funny and motivating book is about how to have effortless confidence. The kind of confidence that comes not from anything particular that you say or do but from how you hold yourself, your ‘status’. At its heart is the idea that ‘we are all always giving off signals and “tells” to others that signify – consciously or unconsciously – how we expect them to treat us.’It disarms people immediately. Warmth creates connection and lowers the wall that are around people's ability to connect. 35. Have an air of effortlessness

Networking is another great way to practice Happy High Status. Key points to remember when doing this:Healthy entitlement is the sense that you have the right to want things, even if you might not get them. Or you can be like Conor McGregor’s level of entitlement: Watch this from 3:12 onward. 22. Master how to have great first impressions Ray Dalio banned gossip in his offices. High status people ban it from their entire life. It makes you look terrible. The high status person is gossiped about, not the gossiper. Plus, remember that you have more important things to talk about like that mission from #27. 33. Don’t complain

Your mindset is completely content. It’s all good. That’s good. That’s good. Oh, that? that’s also good. Unfailing coolness, it’s all good even if it's bad it’s good. “It’ll be alright” type of attitude. A high status person is bigger than their problems. 27. Have an impossible mission Everyone wants to be able to face challenging situations without feeling daunted, intimidated or stressed. But no-one wants to be labelled over-confident, arrogant or smarmy, or to get caught up in their own hype. So how can you feel authentically confident - without the cringe, and without pretending to be something you're not? Ask for introductions. Let it happen naturally and organically. You can have a target but you don’t go out of your way to make a connection. Ask for an introduction. Find commonalities and understand that it won’t happen overnight. 21. Entitled AttitudeIn a series of chapters in which she approaches the idea of status from different perspectives –for example ‘be like final-scene Sandy and Danny’ – Viv Groskop gives a mixture of friendly encouragement, deep dive psychology and practical tips such as ‘leave a gap and a space for a thought to land with the other person.’ Better thoughts = better feelings = better actions = better character = better destiny. Raising testosterone literally changes your life. Prof Easthope has spoken recently about the importance in disaster situations of “being told the truth even when it’s unbearable”. This factor connects strongly to my own inconsequential, low-key, low-impact experience. I just wanted to know the reality of the situation so that I could accept it. The world is your playground. You walk into a room and understand that it’s all a game. This is your playful philosophy on life. I haven’t found an official post‑Covid global confidence audit anywhere, but the World Health Organization has been releasing disturbing figures about the pandemic’s effect on mental health. In March 2022, it announced a “ 25% increase of anxiety and depression worldwide”. It’s hard to know how much of this is the mental effects of the pandemic and how much is a result of physical illness and long Covid, global inequality (itself intertwined with Covid responses) and the increasing acceptability of reporting these kinds of anxieties.