Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds

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The CEO of NSPCC, Peter Wanless, doesn’t agree with the criticism that this is ‘new age dogma’ that will lead to a ‘snooping’ culture. We need to be promoting and encouraging children to learn how to regulate their own emotions and behaviour through learning how to breathe and regulate,’ she adds. ‘Instead of having outbursts they learn to control their own behaviour but this can only be done if we co-regulate our own emotions too.’ Full of practical parenting advice that will give you the tools to guide your child through this time' Daily Express Sarah specialises in ‘gentle parenting’ (she is often credited as being the founder of the movement) and childism (the unconscious discrimination of children in society). Vairāk par visu bērniem ir vajadzīga mūsu beznosacījuma mīlestība – vienalga, vai viņi gūst panākumus vai pieļauj kļūdas, kad dzīve ir viegla un kad dzīve ir grūta.

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Gentle parenting is so much more than what you do with your child at any given moment in time. Raising our children gently builds a better future, for us all, too. Sarah is a mother of four young adults. After graduating with an honors degree in Psychology; she embarked on a career in Pharmaceutical Research and Development. After she became pregnant with her first child, Sarah retrained as an Antenatal Teacher, Hypnotherapist, Infant Massage Instructor and Doula. Since 2005, she has worked with thousands of families, providing expert advice and support. Can you remember how you felt in the months before starting at secondary school? I felt excited, but also worried and scared: fearful of the size of the school in relation to my comparatively tiny primary school, worried about getting lost and anxious that I wouldn’t be able to keep up with the work. I was also concerned about making friends and fitting in, frightened I would get the wrong bus home and nervous about navigating lunchtimes in the huge canteen. Of course, my fears were unfounded; within a month, I had formed new friendships, knew my way around easily and was loving the challenge of learning new subjects. The same was true for all my children. But despite knowing that our tweens will be fine, we must not dismiss their fears. Full of practical parenting advice that will give you the tools to guide your child through this time’ Daily ExpressEven if the school is running settling-in sessions, ask if you can have a video tour of the building, or at least some photos of your child’s new form room and form tutor. Familiarising themselves with these before the beginning of term can help them to feel more comfort- able when they start. Gentle parenting is mindful of current science and child psychology. It is also respectful of cultural and historical practices of child rearing. It is a holistic philosophy that embraces the emotional as well as practical aspects of parenthood. In gentle parenting children matter, but so do adults too. Parenting should be a dance between the needs of children and parents, with practice this dance can lead to something quite beautiful, with tremendous growth for both. Jūsu mazajam pusaudzim ir nepieciešams, lai jūs būtu viņa advokāts. Viņam ir jāzina, ka jūs esat viņa stiprā klints un pat tajos brīžos, kad jums būs grūti, jūs viņu aizstāvēsiet, atbalstīsiet un nodrošināsiet, ka pret viņu izturēsies ar līdzjūtību un cieņu, ko viņš ir pelnījis. Tas, ka jūs esat gatavi iestāties par savu mazo pusaudzi un viņu aizstāvēt, ir pats galvenais, kas ļaus viņam saprast, ka jūs vienmēr būsiet viņa rīcībā. Tas savukārt nodrošinās daudz lielāku iespēju, ka mazais pusaudzis jums atvērsies un lūgs palīdzību, kad tas būs nepieciešams. Try to get hold of a map of the school before they start, so they can familiarise themselves with the entrance, their form, the school hall, the canteen and the toilets. Do let your tween’s form tutor and whoever is responsible for student wellbeing know if they are feeling very anxious before starting. Often, schools have special settling-in procedures for tweens who they think will struggle.

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Baumrind stated that ideally “ parents should be neither punitive nor aloof. Rather, they should develop rules for their children and be affectionate with them. ” Or in other words the ideal parents would walk a carefully balanced line of good responsiveness and appropriate demand of the child, mindful of their development. The definition of this? Authoritative parenting, or as I like to call it: Gentle Parenting. Only one entry per person allowed. Second or subsequent entries will be disqualified. Entries will not be accepted via agents, third parties or in bulk. In my opinion none of these are effective forms of discipline. They all rely on inflicting physical or emotional pain, through shame and exclusion. How does a child learn how to behave in a better manner if they are not shown what to do, if they have nothing and nobody good to model or they do not understand what they did wrong, or what they should have done instead?The early chapters focus a lot on how it isn't hormones necessarily to blame for those changes but the brain and I am already finding this new understanding to be powerful when it comes to how I approach my own tweens. Reassure your tween that all new starters will have worries, even those who look cool, calm and collected on the outside. Help them to understand that a degree of apprehension is totally normal with such a big transition ahead of them. Try to buy any uniform needed several weeks before the start of term, so that your tween can wear it around the house, including new shoes (blisters in the first week aren’t fun). If they must wear a tie as part of their new uniform, keep practising at home until they are a pro at tying it. Gentle discipline calls for parents to work with their children to resolve problems that underlie their difficult behaviour, rather than acting punishing out on them.

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The prize draw opens at 12:01 am BST on 28.01.2021 and closes at 11:59 pm BST on 10.03.2021. Any entries received outside these specified times and dates will not be eligible for entry into the prize draw. Try to focus on the positives. Ask your tween what they are most looking forward to about starting their new school. Speak about the new opportunities they will have and the activities they love. You could also find out what lunchtime and after-school clubs will be running and share the list with your tween, to build excitement. Physical punishment is not a necessary part of disciplining children and can be harmful to the wellbeing of both child and parent.’ Let’s get this out there right now. Gentle parenting isn’t permissive parenting. For those who are new to gentle parenting, perhaps practitioners of more mainstream methods, the most common criticism is relating to supposed permissiveness. They are wrong. Boundaries, limits and discipline play a crucial role in gentle parenting. If you do not discipline your child how can you be truly respectful of them? I found the chapter on raising a financially literate tween one of the most interesting and am already putting ideas I read into place to open these conversations and teach money management. There is a lot of food for thought as well as practical tips on how to prepare our tweens for real life.

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If you’re new to Gentle Parenting and would like to learn more about the specifics, then my Gentle Parenting Book is a good place to start. It covers 0-7yrs.

Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds Between: A guide for parents of eight to thirteen-year-olds

Why Your Baby's Sleep Matters (Pinter & Martin Why It Matters 1)". Pinter & Martin Publishers . Retrieved 19 April 2016. This competition is being organised by Little, Brown Book Group Limited of Carmelite House, 50 Victoria Embankment, London EC4Y 0DZ (“Company”). In most cases misbehaviour is a cry for help. It shows us that all is not well in the child’s world. In effect most of the behaviour control methods in use in society today (the ones we usually describe as ‘discipline’ but more appropriately fit the definition of ‘punishment’) punish the child for having a problem, rather than trying to help them solve it. Do the problems disappear just because a punishment has been administered? Of course not, although the vocalisation or physical manifestations of them may. The problem remains, ready to rise on another day, like a festering wound covered with a fresh bandage. Why not help children to solve their problems? Surely then we are better teachers? We live in a world that places more value on things than people. Society today is all about ‘the stuff’ and the pursuit of more. We spend so much time dwelling on the past and planning for the future that we forget to live today. Or we spend so long buried in the busyness of the present moment that we miss the things that really matter. Our society is selfish, violent, short sighted and focussed on conformity rather than respect for individuality. This is the world we are preparing our children for.Watch Sarah chatting about the contents of her new book ‘Because I Said So’ on Good Morning Britain below: The Gentle Parenting Book". Eve White Literary Agency. Archived from the original on 27 January 2015. True discipline in society however is rare. Most children today are punished. Punished for being a child, punished for not acting like an adult, punished for being too inquisitive and eager to learn and punished for not having a well developed centre of self control in their brains. The dictionary definition of punishment is: “causing or characterised by harsh or injurious treatment; severe; brutal” . When children are punished no real learning takes place, the role of the child is passive. The goal of the adult is control and conformity. Whatever worries tweens may have about the transition to a new school, the two most important responses from parents and carers are, firstly, to listen and, secondly, to empower them to cope with their concerns. The following tips can help with the latter: