The Power of Letting Go: How to drop everything that's holding you back

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Let go of your expectations. When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, focus on the present moment and what you can control.

I felt like this was a Cliff notes version of many types of self-help with a heavy emphasis on Transcendental Meditation. While the concepts are good, the author oversimplifies the effort needed to make significant change. For example, he says if you simply relive a traumatic experience several times (relive to relieve) it will eliminate the pain pattern from your life. His teachings around mindfulness are generally oversimplified and cover only a subset of known mindfulness techniques used in buddhist practices and in mindfulness psychology. The former he seems to not really like even though he reuses the classical anchor meditation in different versions in his exercises (selling each as different or not understanding the common denominator). The latter he obviously has no clue about. He seems to be largely into a very spiritual and traditional hinduism Vedic practice and transcendental meditation. His explanations for why those practices and classic meditation techniques work are largely useless and oversimplified. Let go of your need to control everything. You can't control everything that happens in life, so don't try. Let go and trust that things will work out the way they are supposed to. Why do we have so much trouble learning how to let go of someone we love? We like to hold on to things, situations and especially people because they fulfill our need for certainty. Certainty is one of the Six Human Needs that drive every decision we make. Letting go and moving on from a relationship often entails a large amount of uncertainty. Even if your relationship has reached its conclusion or one or both of you are unhappy , there is still an amount of certainty there that can make it hard to know when to let go of a relationship .people who accept themselves as they are do not feel the need to hide qualities which some people may not like. What is destined will reach you, even if it be underneath two mountains. What is not destined, will not reach you, even if it be between your two lips. Let go of your fear of the future. The future is uncertain, but that doesn't mean it's going to be bad. Let go of your fear and trust that everything will work out.

It's very hard to stop thinking. It's better to give your mind something to do. Sit and relax, and bring your attention to your breath. Then, try to recognize those beliefs until they won’t hurt you anymore, emphasize them. As someone who tried another method to let go of whatever event that was strenuous to forget, I think this book gave me so much refreshing insight. Pretty recommended.

The book is useless and misleading to anyone who wants to learn about meditation. 2 stars, because some exercises were indeed interesting and usable with modifications and sometimes I did recognize statements of an obviously quite experienced meditator - but not one who understands why and how it works. And also not one who can teach it well.

As Tony says, “When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” That’s why practicing gratitude is the antidote to the sadness and anxiety you feel when you’re learning how to let go of someone . Let go of your expectations and focus on gratitude for what you once shared. This small shift in your perspective will help you realize that life happens for you , not to you. When you’re able to find the lesson in every experience and be grateful for it, you’ll reduce the anger you feel toward the other person and instead appreciate what you gained from the relationship. 9. Talk to someone you trust Letting go of someone you love doesn’t mean you have to negate the truth, but don’t let it influence your path . It is human nature to point the finger at someone else or a past incident instead of ourselves. This is why you blame your significant other at the end of a relationship or another person for something terrible that happened to you. Yet even when the facts are terrible or heartbreaking, you must let go of the past . Instead, use your experiences as a tool to push you to learn and grow so you can create a healthy relationship with someone else. 5. Embrace the “F” wordI would have given a three, but it was a good meditation book for me in the shower, so a four. It helped me through some very dark days when I would just not want to do anything. The Power of Letting Go brings together a number of key principles that come up for anyone who is on the journey of self-enquiry and development. At some point, the choice becomes clear, whether to hold on or let go. Many of us have tried to fix other people - it doesn't work. When we focus on what we don't like, we usually get more of it. On the other hand, if we focus on what we appreciate in other people it can transform our relationships. This book is 90% about spirituality and meditation-like stuff, so you need to be very open-minded about these topics to enjoy the book.