Get Out of Your Mind and into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

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The baseline condition of life is suffering. Humans are different from other animals in that we not only suffer but we suffer about our suffering. I begin to experience myself as a conscious human being at the precise point at which I begin to experience you as a conscious human being. I see from a perspective only because I also see that you see from a perspective. Consciousness is shared. Moreover, you cannot be fully conscious here and now without sensing your interconnection with others in other places and other times. Consciousness expands across times, places, and persons. In the deepest sense, consciousness itself contains the psychological quality that we are conscious—timelessly and everywhere.” What you are doing is practicing broadening and narrowing the flashlight beam of attention; and shifting and staying, as you might move a flashlight from one place to another. First of all, the language! Beginning from the first chapter where they are dealing with the reader as an awkward mental-illed person.. phrases like "We know you're suffering and thats why you're hear" .. "We are going to teach you.. bla bla bla... " a very degrading language! We began crafting ways to apply defusion and self skills to coping with the fear and pain of acceptance. Learning to defuse from the voice of the Dictator helps us keep a healthy distance from the negative messages that pop uninvited into our minds, like “Who are you kidding, you can’t deal with this!” It also helps diminish the power of the unhelpful relations that have been embedded in our thought networks, which are often activated by the pain involved in acceptance. For example, the relation between smoking a cigarette and feeling better will be triggered by the discomfort of craving a smoke. Reconnecting with our authentic self helps us practice self-compassion as we open up to unpleasant aspects of our lives, not berating ourselves for making mistakes or for feeling fear about dealing with the pain. We see beyond the image of a broken, weak, or afflicted self to the powerful true self that can choose to feel pain.”

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That being said - I really loved the chapters on values. I found it inspiring and got some stuff out of if that I will certainly use - both personally and professionally. Yes, as is the case with most creative geniuses (i.e. the Joker), I have mental problems. This book seems way ahead of its time. It teaches you to just stop caring about stuff you can't change. Imagine that...being happy even when you're not. If you're confused now, wait until you read the book. I think I need to hire a psychologist to explain it to me. Short term positives are more reinforcing than long term negatives; this is why ineffective coping strategies persist - they offer short term relief but continue the problem over the long run (31) Problem is, these verbal skills that create misery are too useful to human functioning to ever stop operating. They are both the reason for our suffering and the reason we have been able to conquer the world. Everything has a cost.

Whenever you find yourself slipping and reverting to bad, old habits, reflect on these 3 questions. According to your mind, the content of your pain is the source of your suffering because the pain is bad. Thus, you can measure suffering by the amount of the (bad) pain.” (129) By shifting our focus to processes of change and leveraging the power of everyday nudges, we can create a more personalized, accessible, and effective therapeutic experience. Meditation and mindfulness train the mind to respond in different, more poised ways to stressors and stimuli The human mind is a problem-solving machine. It can come up with creative solutions for the most complex problems, helping us survive and thrive, while bringing us useful inventions like light bulbs, cars, and modern medicine.

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When exposed to the same levels of physiological arousal, experiential avoiders are more likely to feel pain than those who willingly accept their anxiety. Chronic emotional avoiders do not know what they’re feeling because not knowing is itself a powerful form of avoidance. (Damn, that’s me) Suffer means having a burden we are unwilling to carry, that we move away from carrying: “fer” comes from Latin for ‘carry,’ “suf/sub” comes from Latin for ‘from below to up and away’ (12) We can practice our attention in different ways. I’ve included some useful techniques in my new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. For now, let’s focus on a simple practice you can do easily at home right now.There is a tremendous irony in happiness. It comes from a root word meaning ‘by chance’ or ‘an occurrence’, which in a positive sense connotes a sense of newness, wonder, and appreciation of chance occurrences. The irony is that people not only seek it, they try to hold on to it—especially to avoid any sense of ‘unhappiness’. Unfortunately, these very control efforts can become heavy, planned, closed, rigid and fixed.”