The New Bottoming Book

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If you want technique, there are dozens of excellent guides to knots, whips, ropes, sex toys, and everything else you can think of. Plus videos all over the Internet. I skipped some parts, mostly irrelevant Interludes and many parts of the ending which for some reason delved into spiritualism and dragged our old boy Jung into it. The book was inclusive and had some interesting views regarding spirituality and BDSM that I haven't seen in my other research. Kinktionary written by Ignixia Roberts and has been published by Independently Published this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2020-11-06 with categories.

D/s relationship. It was crystal clear that the authors our experts or at the very least possess a vast amount of knowledge on this subject. Unfortunately, I found the first half of this book to be extremely dull, at one point thinking about messaging the couple who recommended it to make sure they hadn't made a mistake! The initial parts of this book discuss basic, general aspects of BDSM. About 50% in, the book becomes much more interesting. The latter portions delves into some very deep issues, focused on information best suited for those who have been involved in BDSM for quite some time. When Someone You Love Is Kinky written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Psychology categories. Pretty much everything in this book is common sense and obvious to me. There are some good insights or well-put thoughts, but an overwhelming majority of the book is filler content and repetition. urn:lcp:newbottomingbook0000east:epub:c214cea6-9d1a-4fec-b6be-34e02ed1610e Foldoutcount 0 Identifier newbottomingbook0000east Identifier-ark ark:/13960/t9q36gk8c Invoice 1652 Isbn 1890159352 Radical Ecstasy written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-08-02 with Self-Help categories.

you have the right to expect support from your partner - whether you're in scene space or out of it The authors stress the boundary between fantasy and reality, but as soon as you act out the fantasy, it becomes reality. Yes, to me such behaviour is pathological, stemming from either childhood traumata or low self-esteem. A few principles seem to have guided Easton and Hardy in the penning of this volume. First, they're very much in favor of involving oneself in a local BDSM community, attending "munches" (jargon for informal, fully-clothed meet-and-greet sessions open to anyone who wants to attend), taking classes and attending demos. All great advice if you are in a place that has a community to join. Second, they assume pretty firmly that theirs readers are single or non-monogamous. If you're in a committed, monogamous relationship, a lot of their advice is going to have to be adapted heavily to your situation. They don't talk about technique because they are focused on motivation.

The Dominance Playbook written by Anton Fulmen and has been published by Greenery Press (CA) this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2019-04 with Psychology categories. There is very little practical advice about how to find community, multiple approaches to different types of relationships, etc. It's a very "free to be you and me as long as you're cool with everything" attitude. I think the reason they are so popular is because there really aren't very many good non-fiction books out there about these issues. The fact is, you get sexual pleasure out of humiliating someone, by treating them badly. Just because they like that doesn't make your perversion better. It just shows there are equally misguided people that fit your needs. Bdsm 101 written by Rev. Jen and has been published by Skyhorse this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2013-07-01 with Health & Fitness categories. Easton and Hardy don't dismiss the minutiae of technique as unimportant. Far from it; they are very clear about the responsibilities that come with rendering someone helpless. Tops have a burden of care to make sure nobody suffers permanent harm, and because of this responsibility the authors insist that a top shouldn't attempt any technique that he or she can't be sure of using in a safe, controlled manner.This trend obtains throughout the volume; it's overall a better guide if you are a top looking for help in understanding what your bottom gets out of a scene. People are attracted to playing in their shadows because it is very hot, intriguing, sexy. Please don’t think that we are robots doomed to reenact the dysfunctions of our childhoods over and over without release, but rather that we seek out opportunities to struggle with these conflicts so that we have a chance to make the story come out differently. If we let these desires drive us without our awareness, they may manifest in destructive ways." All in all, I find the book very basic in it's explaining what bottoming is and how to start on that path. Certainly recommended for the novice this book can help shed the nervousness and dispel the fantasy of play. Access-restricted-item true Addeddate 2021-10-09 11:07:03 Associated-names Hardy, Janet W Boxid IA40257202 Camera USB PTP Class Camera Collection_set printdisabled External-identifier Three decades ago, this book and its companion volume "The New Topping Book" began teaching tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming - not just "how-to," but "why-to"... the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players. Now, the completely updated revised New Bottoming Book and New Topping Book give even more insights and ideas, updated for a new millennium, about how to be a successful, popular player! What the experts are saying "The only way I can think of to learn more about bottming than Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy teach you in [The New Bottoming Book] is to go out and bottom for yourself." - William A. Henkin, Ph.D., co-author, Consensual Sadomasochism

For millennia, seekers have used physical and emotional extremes to achieve transcendence and exaltation. Today, many BDSM and leather practitioners are discovering the potential of SM practice to reach personal, interpersonal and spiritual goals. In Radical Ecstasy, bestselling BDSM/sexuality authors Easton and Hardy document their own journeys into the transcendent realm of kink. With their trademark frankness and humor, they share their own stories and philosophies. They also share techniques that have worked for them - techniques which combine tantric breathing, visualization and movement with a combined half-century of BDSM experience - to create states of transcendence during solo and partnered sexual and BDSM practice. As outrageously revolutionary as any sex book published in the last decade, Radical Ecstasy sets the stage for the new millennium in BDSM and sacred-sex practices - a "must" for any kink, tantra, pagan or sacred-sex practitioner. "Amazingly mindful exploration of that which cannot be easily put into words... the ecstatic experience from sex to sadomasochism, from trance to intuition to archetypes and spiritual awakening. Totally real and personal. Not a 'how to' but a nurturing 'can do' book." - Fakir Musafar, father of the modern primitive movement. "Progressive, deliciously honest, and HOT HOT HOT! Dossie and Janet ask difficult questions about the nature of sex, intimacy and ecstasy, then they actually manage to answer the questions, plus turn us on when they do. These two erotically gifted women have a way with words - and sex. They raise the bar on erotic writing and sex education to new heights. I'm in awe." - Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D., prostitute/porn star turned sex guru/sexologist "Fascinating, heartfelt, honest, real stories of the heart/spirit/energy connection experienced in the passionate rituals of intimate consensual power play. These two courageous women write brilliantly of how erotic energies connect us with the big love we all seek from the source." - Cleo Dubois, educator, ritualist, video producer/star This was a solid intro book to topping/dom dynamics — accessible writing, encouraging and non-judgemental language, a decent amount of nuance. It feels like Dossie and Janet are your kinky and occasionally problematic white lady aunties loud-whispering secrets to you in a movie theatre while making sure you’re on your shit with safer sex. I thought Part 2 whilst extensive in the types of play ,I felt that the authors reminiscing of their conquests detracted from the actual "playing". The mention of "waxplay" had me sit up but then there was nothing about it(I will have to find a specialist book in this)and yet they did discuss the real "edgeplay" stuff in length. The section on Spiritualism in BDSM was quite interesting.There was also a lot missing in regards to navigating ethics, trauma, and joy for/with fat folks and disabled folks — for example, how might a person’s ability to engage in normative D/S actions like kneeling and spanking be different based on size or ability?, or how might the impact of shame and punishment around movement differently affect fat and/or disabled folks? I would have liked to see Janet and Dossie offer play alternatives for folks navigating these intersections, and provide a more sophisticated analysis of cultural and bodily barriers to BDSM. Infusing BDSM with spiritual weight is totally fine, but I don't think it belongs in a primer for newbies. I made a concerted effort to read this chapter without judgement, but when the authors mentioned a rigger friend of theirs who saw visions of "animal spirits" and received psychic messages while tying people up, my eyes started to roll involuntarily. The conclusion is also a bit up-its-own-ass, talking about Lucifer and illuminating the darkness within and stuff like that, and I mean, come on now. We're not monks, we're people who like to flog others for fun. But I suppose it's better to treat BDSM with too much reverence than not enough. Forbidden emotions sent to the deep freeze commonly include pathos, anger, shame, terror, villainy and victimhood. Starting to sound familiar? So our thesis is that it just might be that our kinky desires, the drives that lead us to enact our dark and dangerous fairy tales, may very well be the longing to reunite with a part of ourselves that we have lost in the Shadow."

This book sounded like one huge justification to act out your inner sadist, bully, villain, whatever harmful behaviour, without getting busted. Yes, submissive people consent to those actions. But does that change anything, really? If I was, I still am, because the concept of such practices and relationships eludes me. I cannot fathom how such an unequal shift of power can be enjoyable. The New Topping Book is a great answer to the question many new tops have: "How do I actually do it?" This book isn't just a guide to resources and fundamentals of safety and communication, it walks you through creating a viable emotional and conceptual framework for your own domination. So if this book was completely not for me, then why two stars? I think it has value for people who are actually into this stuff. The New Bottoming Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by SCB Distributors this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 2011-06-09 with Self-Help categories.preconceptions you may have about "submissives" and the BDSM Scene. So by all means its a good starting point. The Topping Book written by Dossie Easton and has been published by Greenery Press (CA) this book supported file pdf, txt, epub, kindle and other format this book has been release on 1995 with Sadism categories. Many, many people have sexual interests or practices that are in some way unusual. These people may enjoy bondage or spanking, erotic role-playing, dressing in special clothes that turn them on, or a host of other activities that place them outside the sexual mainstream. Your mechanic might have an alternative sexuality, or your librarian, or your kids' teacher, or your boss.... If someone you love has a sexual kink, or if you suspect that she may, and you want to know more about what that means to her and how you can deal with what it means to you, this book is for you. "When Someone You Love Is Kinky will do more for family values than anything the right wing ever dreamed up, because it lets people communicate and love and respect each other on the basis of who they really are. A wonderful contribution twoards a more sex-positive culture." - Dr. Carol Queen, author, Real Live Nude Girl "Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt, both wise and compassionate women, and both players in the world of kink, welcome the reader gently into that world and answer everything anyone might have wanted to ask but was really afraid to find out." - Isadora Alman, syndicated sex and relationship columnist The authors don't try to railroad the reader down one particular road; rather, they give you the tools to empower yourself and become confident enough to actually dive into play without excess worries or insecurities. This sort of comforting, non-judgemental attitude can be surprisingly rare in the BDSM community. It's super readable, very inclusive of different styles and intensities of play, and I think it's not only a good primer but a good refresher for more experienced players.