Deluxe Silicone Butt Plug Amateur (Large, Ø 40 mm), Anal-Plug with Foot

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Norma might mean using a douche - I have done this occasionally, but usually don't bother with more than showering.

Takes five mins and I personally appreciate the effects (and mitigates the risk of clean up although doesnt remove it entirely) release between each swish (I cant believe Im writing this) and the way is clear, so to speak. Dont use the plug for too long before sex - they can cause some discomfort in and of themselves which leads to slight tenderness, therefore tensing/clenching which in turn leads to more tenderness and repeats the cycle. I would limit the amount of time - even to a minute or 2, until you really get the hang of relaxing and not suffering any unpleasant after effects. i'm also a fan of a bit of girth - going back to fingers, one is unpleasant, two is much better but three and it starts to get really good. I think it's something related to a more sustained stretch, than stretch/relax/stretch that makes it more comfortable if you see what I mean?

I feel we need a topic "Bumsex for amateurs" as some of you seem way beyond anything I plan to experiment with! Get him to enter you slowly then stop still to allow you to fully relax and get used to the sensation. Take a deep breath and allow him to enter slowly, try and it relax it’s natural for your body to push against this as if your having a poo as your bum is full of nerve endings. Hands and knees is probably the most painful entry wise and ends up with the most soreness afterwards if you continue in that position.

We dont usually bother with fingers, but what position are you using as some make for a more painful (and sore after) experience than others? There is a whole lot of misinformation about anal and its "gasps" dangers, lengthy prep needed, practice, training etc. We have done it about 5/6 lately with no problems and have also had an organism through anal penatiton only.

I have no interest in being on top, that isn't what makes it exciting for me, but missionary could work. My butt plug has quite a thick neck which gives a nice stretching feeling - it's a glass one from Love Honey - but overall is quite short - I don't like the poking feeling of anything going too deep!

However, the necks of plugs are usually quite slim so you might need a dildo that is a bit thicker to prepare even more. uk/bejewelled-metal-clear-jewelled-butt-plug-3-35-or-4-inch but it seems that might not be thick enough.I suppose the hope is that with enough slow and gentle at the start you will be better prepared for the fast and exciting part at the end? I find if my dh stimulates my clitoris is helps me relax and just hold it until your ready to proceed and it can be highly enjoyable , after a couple of times your bum will get used to it I know because dh accidentally put it in my bum and I didn’t scream in pain. We have had plenty of foreplay prior and then pv sex ensuring we are fully aroused before making sure we applied plenty of lube before going anal. I will try your other suggestions although I need to find a butt plug that looks more "feminine" than the ones I have seen. Could anyone who can remember the first times they had bumsex give me a detailed recipe for how I should be preparing for bumsex to avoid the sore bottom problem please.

No extended anal play, no running downstairs with butt plugs, no objects in me at all that aren't there to make the later f*king by DH easier . Just a thought - the thing about butt plugs is that the neck is usually quite slender, to allow for a more comfortable wearing experience. Its a nice filling feeling, but totally different to having anal and doesnt necesarily help with the relaxing in the begining. I like one finger but not more - their combined shape is lumpy in cross-section rather than circular - nothing to do with the size as a cock is more comfortable!

I don't know whether you've watched it in porn vids but the vast majority of people can't have anal sex like that. The least painful (for entry) Ive found are me on top - having total control allows you to go at your own pace and relax into it or laying flat, face down but being face down for much of it, can get really sore - really quick. I'm not advocating no lube, just making use of my own naturally produced + saliva but yes, I did mean a douche.