To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma

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From USA Today Bestselling Author Leigh Greenwood comes a historical Western romance filled with gritty cowboy heroes, strong-willed heroines, and a whole lot of heart in the Wild West. De Jane Green solo había leído un libro anteriormente, hace ya bastantes años, pero aun así sabía exactamente lo que esperar de ella: una historia ligera, que enganche, con unos personajes lo suficientemente interesantes como para querer meterte sus vidas y especialmente una lectura con la que no haya que pensar mucho, que a veces es lo que apetece. Y sí, exactamente eso me encontré al leer Hechizada.

Además, si algo tiene este libro, es que te entran ganas de comprarte una casita en las afueras, vivir una vida tranquila, pasar tus días dando paseos por la playa con tu perro y cuidando de tu jardín y contemplando las estrellas y disfrutando del silencio por la noche. El estrés de la ciudad apesta cada día más. Joe is a serial womaniser and often goes home with a different woman after ring Alice to inform her he will not be home as he has to work late yet again. Alice has her suspicions but never talks about it to Joe. On sex after childbirth: "As exhausted mothers, we often resent our husbands for having any interest in sex because it's just one more piece of evidence that they have energy we do not have. Their requests for sex show that they obviously have no clue exactly how drained we are or exactly how uncomfortable and unsexy we feel in our post-childbirth bodies. ...our husbands become just one more person placing demands on us, and particularly demands on our bodies… In other words, their interest in sex is proof that they aren't with us, don't get us, and don't see where we are, and possibly that they're selfishly pursuing gratification of their own needs. ...But the irony is that sometimes, their sexual overtures may well be their way of saying, I'm right here. I see you and I want to be with you. I'm reaching for you." (151-152) El papel de la mujer en este libro no es precisamente un modelo a seguir, porque Alice cambia de arriba abajo, suprime todos sus deseos, solo para poder complacer a un hombre que ni siquiera la quiere realmente, solo quiere lo que él desea que ella represente. Con Josie tres cuartas partes de lo mismo. Emily es algo distinta, y por suerte Alice se va dando cuenta con el tiempo de que esa felicidad que ella cree sentir es totalmente falsa, que solo podrá serlo si se quiere a sí misma, si vuelve a ser la persona que era antes de estar con Joe. Alice knows she should be happy. A charming twenty-eight-year-old with a successful catering business, she’s always dreamed of a rose-covered cottage in the English countryside, filled with children and animals and home-cooked meals. Her favorite attire is comfy jeans, her best manicure features garden dirt under the nails. But when her teenage crush—the wealthy, dashing man-about-town Joe Chambers—wants to make her his bride, Alice is more than willing to play Cinderella to Joe’s prince. Never mind that he wants her to change—a diet, ice-blond highlights, stilettos, snooty gallery openings—and that he’s allergic to nature and kids. She tells herself she’s happy to sacrifice for love, and besides, with Joe’s stunning good looks and high-profile career at a top financial firm, every woman in London wants to be in her shoes.

CHAPTER XXIX IN WHICH I KEEP TRYST

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Printed in the Riverside Literature Series (1934) with introduction notes and suggestions by Grace Shoup. Marriage. Gender Roles. Self-identity. Self-awareness. How and why all these things - which may have only just stabilized depending on when a couple enters parenthood -- are so shaken by the arrival of a first child.To Have and to Hold ( 1899) is a novel by American author Mary Johnston. Published by Houghton Mifflin, it was the bestselling novel in the United States in 1900. She joined the ABC News team to write their first enhanced digital book— about the history of Royal marriages, then joined ABC News as a live correspondent covering Prince William’s wedding to Kate Middleton. Much like All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership, I couldn't bookmark the whole book, so here are my top passages that I want to remember: Dengan gaji dan tunjangan yang baru, Joe bisa membeli 1 apartemen di Manhattan dan rumah di daerah pedesaan. Upon its release in March 1900, Johnston’s novel was praised by critics and the reading public alike. The Atlantic Monthly had published the adventures of Ralph Percy and Lady Jocelyn as a serial from June 1899 until March 1900, to much excitement; the book sold 111,000 copies during its first three weeks in stores. The New York Times wrote that the novel “justifies the most favorable expectation,” especially in Johnston’s “repeated choice of the better part of fiction, that of describing real men and women, not puppets.” The Times also noted the tale’s “wonderful pirate episode.” The Virginia Magazine of History and Biography called To Have and to Hold“the most stirring and interesting Virginia historical novel ever written,” but complained, “the buccaneer episode is out of place and rather disfigures the book.”

The complex truths of motherhood will continue to make everyone uncomfortable and ashamed until they're articulated readily and repeatedly. (220) On the importance of paternity leave: "It might cost the family more money if Dad takes parental leave, but that might be income extremely well 'spent' if it is viewed as a kind of insurance policy against developing gendered power imbalances in the relationship, and the marital dissatisfaction that comes with them." (99) at the end when Joe is thrown out he is in denial and he is sorry that he got caught he was expecting Alice to forgive him after all he is a red blooded male and she has forgiven him in the past(i skipped in between but one dialogue gave me this impression when he is thrown out)On relationship stress: "...many scholars argue that remaining open to the ever-unfolding mystery of who our partners are is a key aspect of keeping love alive. We do not need to know every nook and cranny of our mate's psyche or personality, nor do those nooks and crannies need to stay exactly the same across time. We only need to know the answer to that million-dollar question: Are you there for me? And it is when we can't get an affirmative answer--when the strain of parenting and careers and domestic obligations and the endless logistics of life impeded our ability to show up for each other and tune into each other--that we suffer. El libro es muy frustrante en ese sentido, porque Joe es asqueroso y no entiendes por qué alguien como Alice aguantaría tanto tiempo a su lado, cuando ni siquiera disfruta el estilo de vida que le proporciona estar con alguien como él. La forma que tiene Joe de justificar sus infidelidades es repulsiva, y, encima, cuando ves que sí hay otra persona que es perfecta para Alice, que la entiende y la quiere tal y como es ella, también te da pena porque la situación de esa persona pone a Alice en un gran compromiso. Watching Alice just be in denial about her husband nightly activities with other women was frustratingly painful. I felt bad for her, but I was also furious with her. Even if she didn’t know her husband was cheating, she wasn’t happy at all. I would’ve left a long time ago. But the signs were there and she ignored them. I wanted her to find out sooner than she did. I wanted pain, suffering and retribution from Joe. I wanted the second half of the book to be more about her and Harry. I feel like Harry’s apparent feelings for her were a bit out of the blue, but you can kind of see how that happens.

Powerful and important. Should be required reading for couples before their first kid is born, since a huge share of the challenges that arise with the transition to parenthood stem from misaligned expectations. Yeah sure, the logistics and the sleep and the finances are hard, but they are concrete problems that are solvable. It's the nebulous feelings that are corrosive. Preparation -- even just knowing to anticipate that your marriage and your self-identity will get rattled -- makes a huge difference in making it through relatively unscathed.Sparrow argues that the Indians are sincere, that they do not, as Percy insists, wear a “mask.”“Believe it or not, it is so,” Percy warns his friend. “That dark, cold, still face is a mask, and that simple-seeming amazement at horses and armor, guns and blue beads, is a mask. It is in my mind that some fair day, the mask will be dropped.” these words came to us over and over: “The Spaniard!”“The Inquisition!”“The galleys!” They were the words oftenest heard at that time, when I've decided to write up 3-5 takeaways from nonfiction books in an effort to retain more of what I read; here are some from this book: I am a huge fan of Jane Green books, with bookends being my favourite. When I was in the library I saw Spellbound which is a book of Jane Green which I have yet to read and obviously I couldn't walk over it.