Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

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Lysa Terkeurst is the New York Times best-selling author of Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. Boundaries” seems to be a hot button issue lately in modern psychology, so I was delighted to see Lysa appropriately tackle this through the lens of Scripture. Christians should read it with a strong commitment to their marriage, especially if they are in crisis. Good Boundaries and Goodbyes explores how people can have healthier relationships by establishing relational boundaries with their partners, family, and friends. Through boundaries, a person invites others to choose between loving them by respecting the boundaries or harming them further; those who continue hurting the relationship effectively choose ending it.

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing

I also got the sense from this book that Terkeurst is here to fight for her readers and their well-being. Terkeurst’s book feels tailored to processing emotions and developing/maintaining close relationships (or letting them go). Good Boundaries and Goodbyes is not the kind of book one necessarily goes out of their way to read for entertainment or enjoyment. As you understand more about setting healthy boundaries, you'll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren't just a good idea, they're a God idea.It only makes sense if you’re going to bring healing and light into this world, you will offend the unhealth and the darkness in other people. However, this is because I am not the target audience, and I am not currently in a place where I am seeking to learn what Terkuerst here is teaching. Despite the book seemingly being born out of her trauma, Terkeurst does not focus on her situation; she does not discuss any overly personal details, and she avoids painting anyone in a bad light. She ended each chapter with advice from a Christian counselor, important quotes from the chapter, scripture, a prayer, and questions to reflect on.

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I came out of this book feeling hopeful for myself and others, and I think most other readers will have a similar experience. I know this will not be popular but it has Some dangerous advice and some trite unrealistic solutions that sadly she and evidently her therapist who chimes in throughout falls into the very traps it seems to warn against… it’s mixed in with some good thoughts but as an abuse survivor I am very concerned with a few things in particular…. Someone resistant to your boundaries may accuse you of being hard-hearted, of making threats or ultimatums, or of taking things too seriously. And if you follow her on social media, you’ll also notice that her posts similarly lack relatability and seem more focused on appearances—the done up face, styled hair, painted nails, and designer clothes don’t do much for me.Lysa was recently awarded the Champions of Faith Author Award and has been published in multiple publications such as CNN and Fox News online. According to Lysa TerKeurst, this isn’t only unnecessary, but actually the opposite of honoring God’s will: We were never meant to sacrifice our identity, our health, or our safety in the name of believing in the best in people. It's highly addictive to get core insights on personally relevant topics without repetition or triviality. In comes across like verses were picked to support the author's claims, rather than using God's Word as the standard. With this latest release being about boundaries, I knew I better read (and study) this book as well!

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TerKeurst also provides scripture verses to back up the fact that we can still be a Christian, and have boundaries in place. I really appreciated the idea that we choose how much access we give to someone and boundaries help with that. Which brings me to the point of saying that I wish I would have read this book in physical form so that I could highlight and underline everything that spoke to me (which after this review, I am going to purchase this book!Lysa's personal writing style and insight, won through many hard-fought battles she shares as illustrations, make it seem as if she is writing from the heart of the reader. On the other hand, you certainly can’t wait for it to be perfect before working with the ones you have. This was really helpful not only from Lysa’s perspective and story, but the end of each chapter also had a note from her therapist, Jim Cress.