Grief Is Love: Living with Loss

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May the moon softly restore you by light bathing you in the glow of restful sleep and peaceful dreams. My grief is a big hole in my road. It cannot be gotten around. I don’t know how deep it is. I don’t feel love. I only feel loss. I don’t understand. When I am not crying I am numb. There is no realization of how much more love. Just pain, and I cannot handle the pain.. so I try to ignore it, forget, run away from it, separate myself from family. Anger. Even if the loss was nobody's fault, you may feel angry and resentful. If you lost a loved one, you may be angry with yourself, God, the doctors, or even the person who died for abandoning you. You may feel the need to blame someone for the injustice that was done to you. Physical symptoms of grief A guide to preparing for and mourning the death of a loved one. (Harvard Medical School Special Health Report)

Grief: The Same Love, but Different 4 Short Poems about Grief: The Same Love, but Different

For TLC straight to your inbox + life-affirming words I don't share anywhere else, just say the word. I continue to share the story of the journey I’ve been on since Jaime’s death and how I’ve been able to get through the worst of times thanks to the love and kindness of others. I tell the story of my family life, my brother Michael’s illness and untimely death, and the story of what happened to my family and our community. Despite these very hard subjects, I share them so we can all look forward. You need to know, despite how hard it’s been, I got this. What’s more, You got this. None of these resonate, all ridiculous cliches except for one. Grief is the price you pay for love. Some of us pay dearly, even with our lives. Yearning and searching: As we process loss in this phase of grief, we may begin to look for comfort to fill the void our lovedone has left. We might do this by reliving memories through pictures and looking for signs from the person to feel connected to them. In this phase, we become very preoccupied with the person we have lost.

Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.

Grief is actually LOVE. Grieving is healing. I wish - Medium Grief is actually LOVE. Grieving is healing. I wish - Medium

Plan ahead for grief “triggers.” Anniversaries, holidays, and important milestones can reawaken painful memories and feelings. Be prepared for an emotional wallop, and know that it’s completely normal. You can plan ahead by making sure that you’re not alone, for example, or by marking your loss in a creative way. For more help facing up to and managing distressing emotions like grief… When we lose someone we love we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.” –UnknownGuilt. You may regret or feel guilty about things you did or didn't say or do. You may also feel guilty about certain feelings (feeling relieved when a person died after a long, difficult illness, for example). You may even feel guilty for not doing more to prevent your loss, even if it was completely out of your hands. Disenfranchised grief can occur when your loss is devalued, stigmatized, or cannot be openly mourned. Some people may minimize the loss of a job, a pet, or a friendship, for example, as something that’s not worth grieving over. You may feel stigmatized if you suffered a miscarriage or lost a loved one to suicide. Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn't mean you are weak. You don't need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you. In German, sehnsucht: A high degree of intense (recurring), and often painful desire for something, particularly if there is no hope to attain the desired, or when its attainment is uncertain, still far away.

The Love We Only Find In Loss - Whats your Grief The Love We Only Find In Loss - Whats your Grief

So t he whole time we are in the joy and companionship of love, we are knowing about and experiencing the fundamental aloneness and emptiness of our existence. We may try our best to get the other person (or other people, or activities, or things) to fill that void, but ultimately they cannot.There is little one can do in grief, and we tend to experience an accumulation of affect that cannot get channeled into action. Unless one is capable of sublimating the emotion and producing art of some kind, there is generally no action we can take that would restore our inner peace. This yearning and grief was so deep at times that in wanting the hurt to go away I’d punch a wall or slap myself to replace that pain with physical pain. No I did NOT want to die and Yes even before that I was seeing a counselor & taking medication. I still do. If you are struggling with grief, it is important to take extra care of yourself. Healing takes time, it takes patience. There is no timeline for grief. Grief is not one emotion, it is an experience - a process. Do not compare your grief to those around you; each person’s experience is different. It may be a very private affair, a lonely journey. However, do remind yourself you are not alone.

Grief Quotes: 100 Uplifting Quotes for Those Who Grieve Grief Quotes: 100 Uplifting Quotes for Those Who Grieve

I’m sorry you feel this way, Chris, but everyone is and thinks different, and glad you found something that made sense in your own experience. – Jen Zisook, S., & Shear, K. (2009). Grief and bereavement: What psychiatrists need to know. World Psychiatry, 8(2), 67–74. LinkIn 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what became known as the “five stages of grief.” These stages of grief were based on her studies of the feelings of patients facing terminal illness, but many people have generalized them to other types of negative life changes and losses, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up. The five stages of grief Accepting the finality of a loss can make us feel powerless, but it's an essential aspect of grieving. There are not many feelings worse than the grief that comes with the loss of a loved one but this; the regrets that follow that loss, regrets of missed opportunities to love on that one, because you took for granted their life and your life together on this earth. You see, love and grief are two sides of the same precious coin. One does not—and cannot—exist without the other. They are the yin and yang of our lives… Grief is predicated on our capacity to give and receive love. Some people choose not to love and so never grieve. If we allow ourselves the grace that comes with love, however, we must allow ourselves the grace that is required to mourn.” – Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph. D.